What is the biggest benefit for you of being a dominant?
Literally, the benefit of being Me. Not what society dictates I be, but me: John, Daddy, Dominant, and lest we forget, SADIST is the biggest benefit. The mere fact that I am afforded the opportunity to inflict the intense pain I myself crave and need, and to receive such love and satisfaction in return, fulfills me in ways that are simply unexplainable.

Where does sex fit in with your opinions of BDSM – D/s?
Sex, in my opinion, is paramount. How can one be involved in the lifestyle and have it not be sexual? Do we not seek pleasure from our activities? I find it difficult to understand the actual separation of sex and BDSM as a whole. Sex is always in the forefront for me whether it is actual intercourse, orgasm through play, or just even the slightest of seductiveness presented. I have sex with my lil baby girl in every possible manner, in every possible WAY before, during, and after play. Sex is as constant as BDSM. SM is erotica. Love=Sex=Pain=Love.

To what degree is your relationship BDSM OR D/s (or both)? All the time? Part of the time? Weekends only? Please elaborate.
As stated in my bio, my BDSM-D/s relationship is Full-Time, Real-Time, and 24/7. We are TOTALLY immersed in the entirety of both the BDSM, and the D/s aspect at all times. At no time is my baby girl to be a big girl. She is my little baby girl at all times, as I am her daddy. Daddy controls all, at all times. A total TPE. This is NOT a role. We go into, as in AGEPLAY. I am The Corrections Officer, The Guidance Counselor, The Lover, The Ass Whooper, The Financial Planner, The Teacher, The Ass Whooper, The Psychologist, The Rehabilitative Facilitator, The Ass Whooper, The Fashion Coordinator, and oh, did I say The Ass Whooper? All requiring full 24/7 attention.

What is your definition of the power exchange between dom and sub?
Well, as daddy dom, and baby girl sub, I think this varies much from the “textbook” form of D/s. For example, I pamper and cherish my lil baby girl. I do things for her, such as dote on her and baby her, but she literally has no power in the relationship whatsoever. She is TOTALLY dependent upon me for everything in her life. She has no thoughts towards the “business” side of things, nor does she have any thoughts about our future plans. I tell her what we are doing, and she does what is asked of her. Period. To define it in layman’s terms, all finances and personal business are handled by me. My baby is not involved, in even the thought process, of any of it. She is simply to do two things and they are the two rules I myself have set for her and the one in control. The only 2 things my baby is ever to concern herself with is:
1) To please me, her daddy.
2) To learn the lessons, life lessons that I provide her.

What do you feel sets you and your practice/pursuit of the BDSM lifestyle apart from others?
The daddy/baby girl dynamic has many attributes that set it apart from the typical BDSM relationship. Yes, there is 24/7 TPE and I make the decisions, all of them, and, yes, I administer the punishments and rewards, but I also pamper my precious lil baby. I coddle her and adore her, even dress her, and play with her. These attributes, in my opinion are what set us apart from the pack, so to speak. This is my opportunity to state clearly, that Our Kink has NOTHING to do with any deep rooted desire to be incestuous. There is no pedophilic connection whatsoever! This needs to be clear, as it is my belief that this may be a conclusion being drawn by some.

How important is sceneing within the parameters of your relationship?
I find sceneing to be an intricate part of our life starting with mere expulsion of energy itself. My baby is a full fledged pain slut, and by sceneing, I am able to allow the true sadist in me its FULL potential. I am quite the exhibitionist, and sceneing in public brings much pleasure. Public sceneing has actually become, for both of us, a key factor in our relationship. It has afforded us the opportunity for a deep sense of release. We are able to go to lengths, to depths, to extremes that we might not otherwise be able to reach. The mere space afforded us is a key factor, as well as the expertise and experience available. I am able to try new things, everything from new equipment, to toys, to techniques, not to mention the ambiance and general feel/mood of it all!

What do you feel is the single, most important thing for any new dominant to learn (or observe, explore, share) when entering into this lifestyle? Can you give us an example of one of your first learning experiences?
To be open. There are so very many variables in our Lifestyle. There are so many others out there with literally a wealth of information! I find that others in our lifestyle are happy to share their experiences and ideas. There are things that, in the beginning, may not seem like something we would ever delve into, but by staying open, not closing doors on differences, we allow for growth. What is a “no” today may be a “yes” tomorrow. What someone else does may truly NOT be a possibility to you, but by remaining open to thoughts and ideas you can accept what someone else does as THEIR KINK. Period. THEIRS. We all have our own kink. Have tolerance, compassion, understanding of others. Don’t close yourself off, but rather remain open for thoughts and ideas.