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 TDV: For
the benefit of our readers, please give us a short background on
your introduction and involvement in the lifestyle. Sebaztian: I was searching kinky leather clad wearing women in chatrooms and found a lady who said I would fit into the "group" of chatters. I went there and could not read enough, get enough information and studied as much as I could. I didn't have a problem with women, I was just choosing women who did not enjoy an anal retentive asshole. Now I am still an anal retentive asshole but have women in My life who desire that and have found the ways to enjoy it daily. TDV: How long have you been involved in the lifestyle? Sebaztian: Knowingly, over 10 years, the same actions were performed long before I knew there was a group of people who thought as I did. TDV: You and a few others are primary facilitators for the FLICK group. What sort of challenges are involved in starting and maintaining a local lifestyle group? Sebaztian: I have been fortunate to have found a core group of people who understand pansexual and seek to accept people for who they are. In the past groups I have been involved with, I have noticed that those who do not agree with you, do not accept.... I stand firm behind the phylosophy of "accept us for who we are"... "it is better to be hated for who we are then loved for who we are not". TDV: You are a member of a house - how was it started, how is it structured, what is your place in the house, etc? Sebaztian: Yes I am a member of the House of the Noble Heart. Long history behind it, at this time it is run by Lord Centaur of Alabama who was given the House ownership a few years ago. We are a group who seeks those who live by Honor, Respect, Dignity, Communication and Trust. We aim to spread the word of SSC, and RACK to all those interested in learning of the BDSM world that exists. I have been honored to have been titled Lord Sebaztian by those who hold a higher level, or longevity in the House who views my knowledge, techniques, and safety practices to be of Mastery status and aim to teach and share the knowledge I have. I have also been given the South East area of the USA and am prepared for anyone who may be interested in learning or even earning a title by those who have strict standards. TDV: What did you have to do in order to gain the title of "Lord Sebaztian"? Sebaztian: I sought out a Mentor early on and following His lead and instructions I went into submission training. After the Mistress who was training me felt I had learned what was necassary I was then tested in knowledge, ability and knowledge of safety practices in several play techniques. This awarded me the title of Master Sebaztian. As time advanced and I began seeking to offer instructions, educate, do demonstrations across the country etc.. It was beleived by those over me in the HNH that the title of Lordship be granted to me. TDV: Are there any requirements in the future to maintain the title you own? Sebaztian: Once a title is given, it will not be "taken" away. However, the way I see it, if I want to show respect to those who taught me, shared with me and have enough trust and respect in me to grant me this title, then I will with honor follow honor with every decision, word and action I make. TDV: Concerning the house itself, is it like a club? Is there an actual 'house'? How is it structured? Sebaztian: It
is not a facility by any means. It is a family who has come together
from afar to follow the same rules, protocals, practices and safeties
to come to a common goal. The structure is simple, Lord Centaur TDV: What designates the difference between a Sir/Ma'm, a Master/Mistress, and a Lord/Lady? Sebaztian: Sir / Ma'am is one who has gained enough knowledge that they are seeking a goal and take it serious. Master/Mistress are those who have shown proper practices, safety knowledge, execution of an art ( or more) to the level of complete confidence of that weapon (craft). This title can be earned in many different fields of play. Lord / Lady represents those who have mastered more then 3 play techniques, is able to Master themselves, is able to exucute the knowledge properly, who seeks to educate all that may cross paths with them, and those who live every day with HONOR, Respect, Dignity, Communication and Trust. TDV: Are you aware of other active Houses in North America and do they interact at all? Sebaztian: Yes there are other Houses, Groups, Alclaves, Dens etc... in North America. Some are very private some are not. The House of Noble Heart is not out to have the most members, just the members who deserve and show why they would be honored to hold a dagger in representation of the HNH. TDV: How do you deal with questions that arise as to the validity of "BDSM Houses" when you encounter that? Sebaztian: I laugh. In the learnings I have done, I have found inconclusive evidence either way. I know for a fact that my grand parents house was ran with very STRICT rules and dynamics were never altered. Is that a HOUSE, or is that the way a house was ran in the 50's? The HNH is not attempting to indicate that we are a facility who brings in slaves and kidnap them for training to be the perfect sex slave... that is NOT what it is all about. In my humble opinion, no speaking for Lord Centaur, the HNH is a family, families live in houses. Pretty simple. TDV: Are there protocols that are expected for house members? If so, can you outline some of them?
TDV: With regards to being taught in the House scenario. Do you have seminars for multiple members or is it done mostly one-on-one? Sebaztian: Yes, there is a lot of one on one training, however we do aim to have House events as often as possible and have meetings to get things written down so the same actions are followed all throughout the House wether someone is in California, North East Canada, Florida or anywhere in between. TDV: For some time now you've been working with submissives, training them and teaching them the lifestyle. How do you approach that topic with potential submissives? Sebaztian: Most subs that cross my path more then once has already began training. I only say that because I have NOOO issue offering my opinion and telling them how I see something should be done. If they want more information they will come back, if they do not like my ways, they will keep on moving down thier journey. TDV: What are your feelings about the success (and any failures) you have encountered while training submissives? How do you identify a success, or a failure, etc? Sebaztian: Good question. I identify success when a girl can come to me with much respect and tell me, "Sir, you are not best suited for me and I must continue my search and find someone who is more compatible". This shows me that she has learned she can offer her true feelings, thoughts etc... without danger, trusting herself that her decision is best for her today. Failure... Failure only comes from those who do not work as they truly desire. "you get out of it what you put into it" TDV: As a leader in a local community based group, what have you found to be the most successful way to deal with dissention within your group? We’re asking as it seems to be a common problem for a lot of community groups. Sebaztian: Well, lets just say I won't be any politician. I am very direct when someone crosses the line of respect. I call them out on it in private, if that does not work I have no problem informing them that there are many other groups in the area (50 miles plus away) and they might be better suited elsewhere. I only ask for respect of all members, no matter thier kink, sexual preference, dress code, play levels etc. We have pony groups, transgenders, newbies, well experienced, hard core players to light players. What matters most of all is "do they respect others, show honor of themselves and seek to have fun". TDV: What do you find keeps your community cohesive? Sebaztian: Open communication, level of respect of each other, and trusting ourselves in who we are. More importantly though, what I have noticed to be the biggest difference in this group and others, is that We (the group) aim to make EVERYONE comfortable as soon as they come in. TDV: How do you do that? Do you take any special steps with new members to help them feel like they 'belong' to the community? Sebaztian: When they enter the munch, I or another moderator is in charge of introducing them to everyone, name by name. We stop what we are doing and go and greet them, chat with them a bit and open the lines of communication. We go to them, rather making them come to us. That seems to help many who are new to the group. TDV: OK, thanks for your openness and we look forward to hearing from you in the future. Is there anything else that you want to add? Sebaztian: Yes I would thank you. Thank you for asking these questions, as it shows the Doms View is seeking many different avenues of information. "Perception is enjoyed, NOT terminology TDV: How do people connect with regards to the House? How do they find out about it or join? Sebaztian: The House of Noble Heart has a website. . The House website does also teach classes online free of charge for those interested. Basic information for beginners and level two beginners. It is designed so anyone can go to a club/event and have some knowledge of protocals and safety practices when meeting new people.
Sebaztian: We find them in Clubs, groups, events. etc... those who show the same practices we follow.... Again, we do not aim to have the most in the HNH. TDV: So - you contact them as opposed to the other way around? Sebaztian: Anyone is welcome to come to us and ask about it and show interests. It may take some time to watch an individual/couple and see who they truly are, how they follow honor etc... and then we will consider acceptance. TDV: Ok so both ways - you might see somebody who you think would make a good member or somebody could contact you (global you) and ask to join? Sebaztian: Anyone interested may come forward and inquire, we may approach someone we find intersting. Sometimes it is just the way it all works out, meeting two ships at sea. |
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Head of House, Lady Unicorn is Scribe, Lord Gryphon is second in
command and those under them fall into the proper hierarchy of levels
as described by the Midievil time era. Human first, sub/slave, Sir/Ma'am,
Master/Mistress, Lord/Lady are the titles we follow. 
Sebaztian: Yes
there are some. NO cheating, not on your partner or with someone
who has a partner who is anaware of the activities involved. All
those of hierarchy will be respected by those who are charges or
who have not earned equal titles. Some more physical ones derive
from medievil times practices... The sub will remain on the Masters
strong arm side, (when blade is drawn is will then be in front of
the sub for best protection), The sub will never walk through an
enterence before the Master, (allows the Master to enter first and
evaluate the safety of his/her property.) The sub will remain with
head below the Masters when sitting, (allows the Master to see any
danger that may come forth of them). 